My mom is in in-home hospice because she is 89 years old and has heart failure. Which mind you, I had to fight for because my dad thinks hospice kills their patients. And it has been wonderful, we don’t have to run to all these doctors appointments any more. A nurse visits every week and I can text her with any concerns, a CNA comes to the house twice a week to give you mother a bath (wow, love this!). She even gets a massage twice a week (oh, the life!) from a licensed massage therapist and there is a counselor, chaplin, social worker, music therapy and they all come to the house! This has helped me so much!
My dad and I were constantly fighting because of the stress of caring for my mom. I kept telling my dad “you are asking too much of me”, we need help and he kept saying they, meaning hospice, would kill mom. I had to have someone from hospice come out twice before my folks would sign on to the program. I had to tell my dad over and over that I wasn’t gonna let anyone kill my mother and that hospice was going to help not kill.
Wow, now that I think back I was really losing it before hospice came to help. I was on the verge of leaving, just up and leaving. This being a caregiver to both parents is no joke. I didn’t know it would be this hard!
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